YOU ARE MY I LOVE YOU
I am your parent, you are my child,
I am your quiet place, you are my wild.
I am your calm face, you are my giggle.
I am your wait, you are my wiggle,
I am your finish line, you are my race.
I am your praying hands, you are my saving grace.
I am your lullaby, you are my peekaboo.
I am your goodnight kiss,
You are my I Love You.
– Maryann K. Cusimano
There many poems, quotes and stories describing the beauty of the relationship between a child and a parent. But I couldn’t feel the words until I recently experienced similar emotions. And though my son is only two and a half months old, for the first time I felt a connection as strong as a current
My son held my fingers tightly, I was moved. It was for the first time I had experienced those tiny little fingers holding my index finger.
I sensed as though he was wanting to create a strong connection. And I felt a sudden surge in my emotions and the tears of love swelled up my eyes.
It was a feeling of intense love. And I bent over to whisper in his ears, “I love you, my dear son.”
I looked at him with pride and he was looking back at me with his big gleaming eyes as if he understood what I had just said and was waiting to hear more. So I said to him,
You are one amongst the rest of millions of other babies in the world, son. And I want to help you realize that it’s completely okay to be a part of the crowd. You don’t have to have the pressure of becoming an icon or be financially successful or the pressure of standing out. But I want you to live life happily and positively. Living life with happiness is a rare gift that only a few have mastered and received and only a few can inspire, teach and share the wisdom.
I promise son, that I will guide and support you but eventually you will have to make your own decisions. You will be responsible for your life and I want you to sculpt it the way your heart and soul guides you.
Your mother and I had promised that we allow you to see the world with your own eyes rather than adjusting your lens every time so as you only see what we can see. We promised that we would love you in a way that sets you free rather than caging you with our expectations.
We promised that we would not mount any pressure of full filling our expectations or make you feel guilty about it. We decided to have you and to take complete responsibility for you. A decision that you weren’t aware of, else you might have negotiated. Wouldn’t you, lil champ?
Just as I was talking, he let out long vowel sounds like “oo” ee” “aa” and frantically started to throw his legs in the air. I don’t know if he even understood a word of what I said, but his reaction seemed like he thoroughly enjoyed the talk.